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Grace to Change (Part 3)




As Christians, it is paramount that we understand the importance of change in our everyday lives. True transformation only comes through the Holy Spirit’s help, not by putting pressure on ourselves to change. When we have a hunger and a thirst for God’s Word, we willingly embrace the changes it brings. The more we study His Word, the more we learn about Him and the more we change. Studying the Scriptures causes a gradual transformation in us as we renew our minds according to what God says. It is His will that we enter into a personal relationship with Him, and it is impossible to stay the same once we truly begin to know Him. A thorough and accurate understanding of the specifics of what Jesus came to do allows Him to change our lives for the better.


  1. Change is part of life. The best way to change is through the Word of God.
    1. Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God,  eventhe thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you] (Romans 12:2, AMPC).
      1. Change is unavoidable. As we live, it occurs in all areas of our lives.
      2. Change comes with knowledge, particularly knowing the Word of God.
    2. For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed (James 1:24, 25).
      1. Looking into the Word of God is like looking into a mirror.
      2. The Word is how we know God’s character, nature, and His will for us.
      3. Change comes with revelation. We have the opportunity for God to be revealed as a deliverer, a healer, and a protector.
      4. When Paul met Jesus on the road to Damascus, Paul had a revelation of who Jesus was. This revelation changed his life.
      5. When Jesus established the covenant of grace, He brought about major changes in relationships. He ended patriarchy and re-established biblical equality between men and women.
      6. Jesus came to exchange the curses of the law for blessings by grace. If we do not understand what He came to do, we will continue to live under the curse; therefore, we must resist a false interpretation or a wrong translation of the Scriptures.
    3. And the  LordGod said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).
      1. Before Eve was created, there were no physical, tangible beings that could provide companionship for Adam.
      2. “Help,” in this context, is translated “ezer,” which means strength or a rescuer.
      3. “Meet” is a translation of the Hebrew word, “kenego,” meaning corresponding to or face-to-face.


  1. Jesus modeled the type of love and leadership for husbands to emulate.
    1. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body (Ephesians 5:23).
      1. The husband is the “kephale” of the wife just as Christ is the kephale of the church. There is a parallel between the leadership Jesus provided and the leadership the husband provides.
      2. Christ laid down His life for the church and had its best interests at heart. He served, equipped, and blessed it. The husband should provide the same type of leadership for his wife.
      3. The husband is not to lord over his wife; they are now equals.
      4. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus (Galatians 3:28).
    2. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that (1 Corinthians 7:7).
      1. There is nothing wrong with being married, but singles can also live a blessed life . Everyone has been given their own individual gift.
      2. Marriage is not the “be all and end all.” Singleness is not shameful or something to be seen as less than marriage.


  1. Whether married or single, male or female, God’s will is equality for
    1. And there was one Anna, a prophetess, the daughter of Phanuel, of the tribe of Aser: she was of a great age, and had lived with an husband seven years from her virginity; And she was a widow of about fourscore and four years, which departed not from the temple, but served God with fastings and prayers night and day. And she coming in that instant gave thanks likewise unto the Lord, and spake of him to all them that looked for redemption in Jerusalem (Luke 2:36-38).
      1. Being single brings its own opportunities. Anna had an opportunity to be in God’s presence and serve Him.
      2. Singleness is a gift and a heavenly calling. Singles can embrace the freedom that the single life offers.
    2. We must redefine the term “head.” Headship should be modeled after Jesus Christ, not traditional male role models.
      1. Masculinity does not mean domination; it means tapping into the strength God provides.
      2. Real manhood means displaying the type of sacrificial service Jesus modeled.
      3. We do men and boys a disservice when we tell them not to display emotions. Jesus had a tender side and He was not afraid to show it.
      4. When Jesus died on the cross, He made Himself vulnerable and gave up His power. When men exchange power for vulnerability, they emulate His work on the cross.
      5. Jesus perfectly modeled transparency and emotional authenticity.
      6. We must not shame men for their humanity; the ability to feel deeply is a gift from God.
      7. Jesus was in touch with His emotional side. This was illustrated when He wept when Lazarus died and when He was praying in the garden of Gethsemane and sweating blood.

Scripture References

Romans 12:2,

James 1:24, 25

Genesis 2:18

Ephesians 5:23


Galatians 3:28

1 Corinthians 7:7

Luke 2:36-38